Before my sweet baby boy was born, I was a elementary school teacher and had to deal with many challenging behavior problems in my classroom. This was my first experience with dealing with rebellious behavior towards me. Feeling helpless in lots of the sense, without means to really "MAKE" a child, sit, stop talking, or come in from recess, etc. I began my research through books, internet searches and first-hand attempts to learn how to transform the dysfunctional student/teacher relationships with a few of my students into a positive.
The method that I found worked with 100% of my behaviorally struggling students, was to #1 try to understand them individually, get to know more about them (family, interests, etc.), and to build trust with that student. Most of the time these types of students that broke the rules, were strong willed individuals, looking for attention in all the wrong ways. Secondly, I found that talking to the child privately about their infractions brought more positive change, than rebuking them publicly or being overly punitive.
I was absolutely amazed at the transformations that I experiences with several of my "problem students" by the end of each year, those students were typically my closest students because of the journey we went through together. These experiences had lasting effects on my way of thinking about discipline, changing all of my previously held beliefs from growing up.